What Can I Do About My Life?
Hi, i’m here to see if i can get some good advice from someone. I’m 19 years old, i’ve been obese for all of my life, i’ve lost everything i had and life, and i’m suffering from severe depression. this all started when i was a kid. I’ve always been the fat kid, and my obesity has caused me social/love and psychological problems. I have tried to loose weight, but nothing seems to work, so i have accepted the fact that i’m fat and i will always be fat. Moving on, i mentioned that i have lost everything in my life, and i mean it. When i was in 6th grade my parents got divorced and i have not seen my mother to this very day. Loosing my mom, thinking that she didn’t care for me, sent me into depression. This depression turned me to drugs at a very young age. i started out smoking marijuana, then i moved on to trying other drugs. To me it didn’t matter what it was, as long as it could get me high i would try it. I experimented with almost every drug known to man, from cocaine, to psychedelic mushrooms, to ecstasy, to methamphetamine, to numerous prescription drugs prescribed for: pain, psychiatric disorders, anxiety, and some that alter the nervous system. If i could get my hands on it and it would give me some sort of high, i would use it. i got to the point where i would get so high, i would start blacking out, and a few times i woke up with physical injuries. near the end of last yeaar, i was arrested for possesion of a class 4 narcotic, xanax, and i am now on prohbation for two years. this event made me realize that i had to quit. so i completely stopped using any kind of drug, i will not even take a tylenol for a head ache. at first i had serve withdrawals,but i just fought my way through them, hoping that one day they would eventuall desipate. i do not suffer from any physical withdrawals any more, but i do suffer from depression. when i stopped using drugs, i quit associating with all my friends, because they all use drugs, and i was afraid that if i was around drugs i would break, and return to using them. therfore i now have no social life. i have tried to meet new people, but they always seem to talk to me for about a week, and then i cannot get a response from any type of contact. The thing that i feel that most contributes to my depression, is that i have no one to love. In 19 years, i have never once had a girlfriend. I believe this is mainly due to my low self esteem caused by my obesity. In the midst of all this, I lost my home and my means of transportation at the beginning of this year. In april a very large oak tree fell through my house, and crushed my truck. When all this happened i lost all hope in life, and almost commited suicide. i don’t know what stopped me but i’m still here for some reason. With the loss of my home, my depression has incresed very greatly. Due to the fact that i am prohbation and have large fines to pay, my money is very limited, and i am unable to buy a new vehicle. my dad was fortunate enough to find a new home that we have recently moved into. In the meantime to try and cope with my depression i have turned to the two things i love in life, i have begun to learn to play guitar and i have focused my artistic abilities in hopes of becoming a tattoo artist someday. This only eases very little of the emotional pain. After losing everything i had left in life, and i know they are only material posseions, i have lost all faith in whatever religious beliefs i once had, i believe that the only thing left that can happen to me is that i might die. Can some one help me? Can someone give me hope? Can you tell me how i can become happy? i wish i knew what it was.
Start exercising like crazy. You should get a high from exercising and you should start looking great too !!!
Sanctify and convert your ordinary human life into a divine life.
I also suffer from depression because of low self-esteem. And having to disconnect with what feels like the world. many other people do, and you need to know that you are not alone. Divorce is a really tough thing to go through at a young age Doing drugs cannot solve your problems even if they seem to at the moment. It will only lead to one problem after the next. if doing what you love makes you happy like playing guitar or being artistic, than set a goal that relates to that. Pursue a dream. Become a tattoo artist, Or play guitar. understand the things that you can do. don’t hurt yourself by thinking that your useless. nobody is perfect but Everybody has a purpose. Besides, you are only 19. you’ve practically got your whole life ahead of you. And you can make it better by just being who you want to be not who you have to be. don’t let your flaws bring you down. The best thing to do about you depression is Not to keep it bottled up. let people, like your dad, know. they can help. There’s a world out there waiting for the best in you. have faith in it.
Hello.
I’ve went through hard times,too. Everyone has.
I remember not long ago,I could not be by myself,eat,or go to sleep by myself. I have went through pure hell. I do understand what you are going through.
Get out and see things,seek a therapist that will give you good tips on not only anxiety/depression,but your outlook on life in general.
there are ways to lose weight. Start walking everyday,and walk further as the days go by. It IS very possible to lose weight.
Sometimes it just takes time.
Don’t give up,you are worth it.
You will eventually find the strength in yourself.
I’m not saying life will be perfect,
but if you watch what you eat (vitamin and mineral imbalances can help depression grow, and so does excess fat), STAY OFF OF DRUGS and try to figure out what else is bothering you with a clear conscience.
If you start to make these little right choices for yourself, things will fall into place a little at a time. Good idea to focus on your creative side. You need to learn about yourself. Maybe keep a journal.
Just start small.
Take it slow.
Find your inner peace and confidence.
I went through nearly all of the above misfortunes, (no tree) but was also involved in a severe car accident, and am now disabled. Most doctors are only trained to prescribe various types, and strengths of antidepressants, and counselling. If the depression proves to be resistant, their next approach is to recommend ECT, with its 1 in 50,000 risk of death, and the possibility of permanent, partial memory loss. There are many other things you can do to help treat your depression; view section 2, at ezy build, below; page R first, then teen depression, male depression, and eventually the rest. Weight loss is addressed in section 56, and some things to hep with the drug problem are in section 52. Anxiety; section 6; view page N first. Happiness; see sectiion 18, only when depression begins to lift.
See section 9, on social anxiety, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris... Check out the extensive free email material De Angelo offers, and only then make your decision on the next logical step, of the 3 choices available, or just opt out; you know your personal circumstances best. Then, in your position, I’d first take an escort out to a meal at a restaurant. Ask her how she, and other women would like to be approached. What subjects to talk with women about, and what to avoid. Where to go. (Coffee involves little pressure, or committment, and you can often learn a lot in a short time about whether a relationship with that person is worth pursuing). Maybe a movie next time, or a meal. I’d go on these “dry runs” at least 2, or 3 times. Expect many rejections; adopt De Angelo’s approach, though, and go out with the sole purpose of approaching at least a dozen women, and saying, “Hi, my name’s ?????, and I’m out tonight meeting new people, and I thought you looked interesting, and attractive. What should I call you?” Ask for her email address, and give her a notepad, and pen; have no expectations - just see what happens. Regard it as an opportunity to learn, and develop, or hone your social skills, not as a test you can fail. You may wish to have something to calm your nerves. Try having a cup of “Tension Tamer”, herbal tea, by Celestial Seasonings, (from supermarket tea, or health food aisles) or make some at home, and cool, then bottle, and drink as needed (I find it so strong tasting, that I need to drink it quickly, followed by something like fruit juice, to take away the taste, but others may find it more tolerable). C(h)amomile tea is a more palatable option. Herbal remedies, such as valerian, are often effective, but know how it affects you, first. Avoid overuse of alcohol: it is counterproductive. 1 - 2 drinks, at most! (not beer, because beer breath is a potential turnoff). There are many internet chatrooms where you can develop online skills, but these often don’t translate well in real life situations. Phone calls are a good next step. Then coffee. Speed dating is an option for later, once you have developed your skillset. If you aren’t sexually experienced, this can be a big hurdle, later on. One option is to get some experience with those who do it professionally, regard it as a form of therapy, perhaps, or just a bit of fun, but try to learn about how to satisfy a woman. See http://www.askemilyanything and Y!A womens section.
Many women these days have certain minimal requirements of potential boyfriends, such as: 1) A place of his own. 2) Full time employment. 3) No drug problem. Having a car can help, in some places. Be cocky, and funny too, if possible. Don’t appear to be needy; it’s a turnoff, as is a lack of confidence (see section 38). Dress for the venue, or occasion, and consider having a makeover. Ask a number of people (not the girls you are trying to get to know, at least, not for some time) how they think you could look better; some should have a good suggestion, or two; most won’t, though. You are more likely to get people to read your question, if you use proper spacing, by pressing the “enter” key more than once. Was this easy to read?